Many women make this mistake; if your marriage is troubled the solution is likely not your physical acts and as such things like; not using lipstick, not wearing bum short or not keeping friends just to please your husband will not help anything.
There are people who have been married 2, 3 or 4 times until they get tired yet they couldn’t stay in marriage. Don’t focus on your physical efforts to make your marriage work. Seek help!!
Fast rising Yoruba actress and mother of four, Temidayo Ekson, has been through a lot, courtesy of her failed marriage. In a chat with Saturday Beats, the actress explained what led to her separation from her husband and how she has been coping with her four children. She said:
“From the outset, I have always wanted to get married to a man I love with all my life. We got married and had kids but marriage is not a bed of roses. I put in everything needed to make the marriage work and I made up my mind to quit acting. Before I got married, I was into modelling but I also quit the modelling gig because I saw my estranged husband as a jealous person. It is just the grace of God that kept me all through the period because I went through hell.
I did not enjoy my marriage; I endured it instead. If I had wanted to leave my marriage earlier or I had made up my mind not to live under his roof, I would not have had four children for a man. I never said I was tired or fed up about the marriage. Despite the challenges and everything that came our way, I still stood by him because they say behind every successful man is a woman. I put in everything needed to make the marriage work; I stopped going for parties, I did not have friends, I was a chorister in church but he withdrew me from the choir and I agreed just to keep my home. I just wanted him to be happy at all cost but he did not know my worth; neither did he appreciate me.
“I tried everything to make it work and God is my witness. I wanted my marriage to be a testimony so that when people asked me, I would tell them it was through perseverance but that was not my luck. In 2007, we had a clash and we separated for a while. That was when I met my boss in the movie industry.
When my husband came back, I had my last born in 2009 but after then, things became so unbearable for me. He sent me and my four children packing. It has not been easy but I thank God. We did not part ways because of acting. If I wanted to, I would have started acting from the minute we got married but I respected my husband. When he left me, I felt it was an opportunity for me to go ahead with my acting because it is something that I love to do.”