Here are some of the most common relationship killers, as well as some quick remedies to heal the hurt:
1. You blame each other for everything.
Aside from all-out abusive behavior, blaming and shaming is likely the fastest way to kill the connection. Both of these behaviors communicate contempt of your partner, meaning that you view him or her as beneath you or deserving of scorn. This point of view has toxic effects not only on the person being blamed, but, perhaps surprisingly, on the person doing the blaming as well.
Quick Remedy: Start every disagreement or conflict with the presumption that the problem is not caused by a character flaw in your partner. This will help both of you deal with the problem at hand without heaving personal insults at one another.